How to Work with People that You Don’t Resonate With

Q. I work with a lot of different types of clients from varying backgrounds and find myself easily connecting with some in service and not being able to connect with others even energetically. What would you recommend I do so I can better serve these individuals as well? Anne R. – Manhattan, NY

A. When we are able to easily connect with clients it is usually one of two things, you have a similar resonance with one another and/or the client is open enough and ready to move forward in their work with you. When we are stuck working with people that we do not resonate with, the energy is quite simply that, stuck.

The best way to move through this energy is to take an honest look at what you have an aversion to in the other person. Most people will tell you to just to avoid them or keep everything as depersonalized as possible, speaking only when you absolutely have to. This is throwing a perfectly good healing/teaching opportunity out the window.

Here is the simple truth, if you have an aversion to someone say you think they are selfish, bossy, ego-centric etc… I encourage you to take a deep, truthful and compassionate look at yourself. You may be surprised to find the thing that you could not stand in them has been lurking in you, in those lost and hidden areas you didn’t want to admit were there never mind have to look at it. So, take a deep breath and dive right in, no more avoidance. With a positive attitude, you can start healing yourself and connecting with them at an entirely different level. You’ll find that the more you can find the root of these aversions within you and come to terms, healing and accepting these, the more you will accept people with these traits around you. All around it is a win-win situation.

So enjoy the people you connect with easily and get excited about the ones you find challenging. Here is to you healing, accepting and loving yourself at a remarkable rate.